It’s typical to look at someone and assume that their life is so great, because it appears everything is perfect, and to even start to envy that person. I believe that’s what too many people do when they’re scrolling on social media; seeing an image and wishing that was their life. Well truth of the matter is, the saying is right, “don’t judge a book by its cover.” Everyone has a story.
My story isn’t one free of obstacles, self-inflicted pain, low self-esteem, poor choices, naysayers, and such. Actually, my story is full of it. However, with all that is negative, I’ve also experienced so much positive, many high points, and accomplishments. Over time, I have learned that my past does not have to dictate my future, but that my past can provide valuable wisdom and building blocks for my future and everything I desire to achieve in life.
Yes, I’ve been in unhealthy relationships, I was molested as a child, faced defeated dreams, and I’m still struggling with self-confidence and my body image. I live with PMDD and am constantly at work managing my anxiety and depression as a result. This also means, I fail a lot of the time. However, I’m here, I’m showing up and I’m sharing.
After years of hearing what I can’t do or shouldn’t do, years of doubting my dreams, doubting my ability, comparing myself to others and simply just running in circles, I gave in. In 2014, I gave in to the burning desire to use my gifts, to pursue my passion and live a life of purpose. I gave in to my calling to write, speak, and help people (primarily children and women). Even though I’ve actually been writing since I was a child (as young as elementary school when I started writing poems and short stories).
It still hasn’t been a piece of cake though. I’ve been all over the place, inconsistent, and unclear. It has taken years for me to check myself; who I am and what I have to offer this world. It has taken a lot of self-reflection, and rebuilding and it is a constant journey. That’s what I want to share with you here; from the heart.
My faith, my family, and my craft means everything to me.
I invite you to join me on this journey of authenticity and transparency. It’s not about having it all before opening yourself up to the world, for me, it’s about starting where I am, doing the work and being open to sharing the journey, and the experience, with others; with you.
I believe this is what I was created and called to do. I’m Tinita, a wife, mom of three, a Writer, Author, and Poet, trying to live my best life and inspire and uplift anyone I can along the way.
I’m so glad you’re here.